Free Advice: On Finding Your 'Scout'
A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous,
kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean,
Excerpted from The Boy Scout HandbookOK, so we might strike "obedient" and change that one to "cooperative" but all being equal, my advice on choosing a partner in life is to keep 'Scout Law' in mind.
Does your 'Scout' sport a two-headed snake tattoo, multiple lip piercings, a fondness for Heavy Metal music and only wear black? It doesn't matter. It's all about his or her character. The other stuff is pure gravy. What they like does not necessarily equate with who they are. But what if you don't have a 'Scout' in life yet?
We can all agree that a bar is not the best place to find Ms./Mr. Right. That being said, the reality is that it certainly doesn't hurt to look if you happen to be there. So....
How to spot a 'Scout' from across a crowded bar...
- They're eating.
- They have decent table manners.
- They are making eye contact with whom they are speaking.
- They are (generally) standing/sitting up straight.
- They are not shitfaced.
- They smile on occasion.
- Their eyes remain open (see shitfaced).
- They do not have a wedding band on.
- They do not have a 'tan line' where a wedding band could be found.
Anyway...now it's up to your intended person to "Scout-up" and be "friendly, courteous and kind". A decent Scout will swing by your table and thank you personally. If they are interested in getting to know you better, they may ask to join you - if not - you're only out the cost of an appetizer and you didn't have to get up off your ass!
Uncomfortable about handing out your phone number to a stranger? Sign up for a second email account and use that instead when he/she asks..."How can I contact you?".
Oh, and if you are planning a date - meet them somewhere until you get to know them better.
PS: I married a 'Scout' and couldn't be happier.
Stay tuned for Free Advice-On Dating Your Scout"